Have you ever tried to sit down and write your own obituary..!! Try doing that if you have not made an attempt at it till date.Frankly speaking, you will be at loss to word the same.What will you write...each word which you try to pen down will haunt you at your face.Hundreds of thoughts are going to do many rounds within your consciouness.What are people you know going to say..good things or bad things about you. What is it that is going to become of you in the other world...who all will fight for your belongings...will your family be happy after you pass away...will they offer you the shraadh every year....who is going to cry for you when you are gone...What is the date you are going to write...you do not know?How can you know when you are not even aware what is going to happen with you the next second.Believe me all this will haunt you immensely.Writing your own obituary is an eye opening experience.It brings you back from a plane of an illusionary world to the present.We get a chance to correct our ways of living in this world.It brings forth an insight to the purpose of life other than the material one. The insight to our spiritual existence.
The path to spirituality is very easy to follow and practice.However,it is the first step which is difficult.The beginning is just like a child when he tries to walk and falls down many times.The parents then give support and offer him the courage to walk.Spirituality is inherent in all of us who have been born on this earth even animals. I have come across many incidents where a monkey is seen making friends with a dog, a lion with a deer, a cat with a puppy.So what is this..?? It is a miracle and ways of GOD to give a subtle message.So writing one`s own obituary makes it even more simpler to understand these messages.When once you are convinced that inner peace and understanding yourself is through inclination to GOD`s wisdom, everything else becomes an illusion.
You have a family because you were supposed to have them.You are just an instrument of GOD to support them till such time they have been willed to you.Once that time period elapses you will have to leave them.So when you start writing your own obituary the worldly attachments will start getting seemingly less emotional as a burden on your soul.You will start looking at illusions in the right perspective.Your behavioral pattern will see a small change everyday.This is not a one time activity.Everday you should try and practice this and you will observe that each day will bring you new meaning.Your desires will start deminishing.You will start looking at only what is required and not what is desired.There is a great difference between what is required and what is desired.Your control on your desires will make you more relaxed with yourself and you will start viewing all happenings in your life with a different meaning.Plus the bonus is that you will smile more often.There will be new energy within your eyes and a warmth you have never felt before.
Each one of us is free to look at this with our own viewpoints.There is no disagreement.The question does not arise.Why should it arise at all.But yes one thing is clear.Practicing this will release you of many hidden feelings which fail to come out for fear of bearing sarcasm from people.But is that important.People will be like that and they are like that.Why should you worry.Let them be what they are.No one is going to travel with you.They will travel with you only as far as the cremation ground.After that the journey for you is entirely on your own.So why should there be a dilema.There should be none.We must try and focus on the other journey which we have to undergo so we must write our own obituary to understand how we need to live life, whatever is left for us and try and cleanse the path through which we have to travel all alone.Maybe if we are lucky we may come across some like minded souls to make our journey pleasant or even those whom we had helped in our lives.
Writing your own obituary is like opening a new bank account for the first time and then being happy looking at and counting how many hard earned pennies it reflects with each passing month of your life.
Sanjiv Gupta
Creator Merrigold
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